Hey Taba family, it has been one whole week of living that new life we promised ourselves for the new year. How is it going?
Not so well?
We spent days of self-evaluation and deep contemplation to set these goals. Now, we’re on the edge of the cliff, hanging by our finger tips, and already feeling defeated. Maybe it’s time to evaluate our evaluating. Or at least to consider a new way to make and keep resolutions.
First let’s be clear that resolutions are good. It shows that we recognize the areas in our lives that are not living at our best. It isn’t easy to admit our faults. It also demonstrates that you desire to become the best person that you can be. So, kudos to you resolution maker!
You are thinking ‘that’s great but what good does it do if I don’t achieve those resolutions?’ True, but look around at how many people either don’t realize that need to make improvements or are not willing.
Don’t be too hard on yourself.
You went three days without drinking a sugary soft drink (that is a soda pop for you mid-westerners or a coke, which we did not capitalized because you call every soft drink a coke). Last year you were drinking five sodas per day. You realized that wasn’t healthy. You made a resolution to quit that behavior. You went three days without doing it. That is progress towards healthier living. Yes, caved into the craving on day four and drank one of those mega sodas at the convenience store. So now you have an excuse to throw it all way. Don’t – lets re-evaluate your plan using these steps developed by the good folks at Harvard Medical (with our modifications).
- Dream Big – If you have a goal that is exciting the chances are better you’ll have to desire to fulfill it. Maybe it’s to paint something you can hang on a wall of your house. Maybe it’s to run a marathon. Maybe write a novel. Let it be something that inspires you.
- Think through what you are sacrificing. There is a reason why you eat unhealthy food: you like the taste. There is a reason you don’t exercise every day: it takes time and it hurts. Committing to this dream means giving up the pleasure and taking on the difficulties. If you don’t realize the cost, you won’t be willing to pay it.
- Then commit yourself. Write down your goal in the form of a personal promise. Then share that promise. If you are bold, post it on social media. If not as bold, share it personally with friends and family. They too will get excited for your dream to run the marathon, or write the great America novel. This allows them to become your support system to encourage you along the way. Accountability is always good.
- Now that you have the big dream break it into smaller more easily achieved parts. Rome wasn’t built in a day. You aren’t going to lose 40 pounds over night. You can leave the doughnut out of your morning routine. You aren’t going to run three miles on the first day. You can walk around the block. Small steps get you moving in the right direction.
- Reward yourself along the way. If you wait to celebrate until you lose all forty pounds then risk getting discouraged. Celebrate losing five pounds. Don’t wait until a masterpiece is hanging on your wall. Celebrate having draw one part of the painting. Be sure to announce the small victories so your support system can celebrate with you.
- Stay positive. This goes hand in hand with rewarding yourself along the way. Maybe you are supposed to be running two miles a day at this point. Yesterday you met that goal. Today you only ran one mile. Be thankful for running that one mile. This time last year you ran zero miles.
- If you fail learn from it. If you see it all as progress, then you are likely to keep coming trying to improve.
Hopefully this encourages you – keep at it Taba family!